No Posts in a Month

Look at that.  It’s been over a month since my previous post.  What have I been doing?  Been out there in the real world living the things this blog is made of.  I’m not creative enough to come up with this stuff on my own.  There have been many developments in the past month.

We took a trip and found a nude beach.  We had a lovely evening with Couple 4.  We met up with an old friend.  And I acquired a not so secret admirer.  You’ll have to wait for posts on the beach, Couple 4 and the old friend.  You always have to wait for the good stuff.

So that leaves this stuff.  My admirer.  I got an email on my work email account.  A very interesting email.  It’s just a picture of someone that works near me but not for the same company.  No nudity (get your minds out of the gutter).  Just a portrait of a smartly dressed, professional woman.  She sent it with the subject “Hi…..”  Nothing else.

Now, I had noticed her before.  And I even imagined what she looks like naked.  Ok I realize that since I’m a man, that applies to 75% of the women I see.  But I recall seeing her just before our first party and thinking I would like to see her at the party, and therefore see her naked.  And then the thought was gone.  Probably replaced by the same reflection applied to another woman.

Nevertheless, I never considered pursuing this woman because 1) she is married and has small children, and 2) I wouldn’t want my advances towards her (or anyone even vaguely related to my workplace) to be considered in anyway harassing or even hinting at inappropriate.  My very rare, and equally brief interactions with her were always very courteous and professional.

I told Wife about the email as soon as I got it.  To not tell her would only be appropriate if I replied in a curt and professional manner that I had no interest in seeing her naked or spreading her out on a bed as I lay my cock on her pussy and enter her.  Which, of course, would simply be untrue.  Wife gave the OK that she may be my present.

So I was shocked by this email.  Quite pleasantly so.  I found reasons to bump into her from time to time.  Our interactions have been more frequent, much less brief, and most certainly more enticing.  I wanted to discuss her intentions, find out just what she hoped to gain by sending her photo.  And then give it to her.  Alas, while we did have conversations about families, weekend plans, and such every attempt to engage her in the conversation we both wanted to have was thwarted by our co-workers.  This woman is never alone.  Someone is ALWAYS within earshot. 

Finally, I sent her an email suggesting that we could get some privacy if we went out for lunch.  So this week we will.

In other news, it looks like isshefilthy blog has closed up shop.  Too bad, they had another hotwife I wanted to show you as well as a male strip show I would like to take Wife to.

And in case you didn’t know, when I ask questions, they are for you to answer.  Leave comments or write an email.  I want your input.  Got it?  Seriously, I do appreciate the comments, emails and clicks in the check boxes at the end of each post.  Thank you.  But if you select “Can I join you?” you need to need to let me know who you are.

An Update May 15, 2010

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Odds and Ends - February 13, 2010

1. Wife sucked BD’s (Black Diamond, aka Mr. G) cock while we were parked in the SUV at the end of the last adventure.  I forgot to mention that.  Unfortunately, I couldn’t see it in the dark.  I like seeing a cock in her mouth.  She hasn’t sucked my cock in months and his was in her mouth twice in the first two times that she went out with him.  I’m glad she is comfortable enough with him to suck his dick.

I might just have to have her suck mine tonight - whether she wants to or not.

2. I ran across an old friend from school a few weeks ago on the web.  He has a fairly distinctive name and while surfing some erotic sites on web, there it was.  About right age and height, but he had grown a beard and gained weight so it was a bit hard to recognize the face (and I certainly never saw the rest of him, before).  Still I was in disbelief.  This man lived a several hours from where we went to school.  Could be him, but might not. Yet there he was – doing some things that I wouldn’t do, but things that are exciting to see some one else do (although he took it a bit too far, and he was a bit, ok a lot, out of shape).  Still he’s got some balls to put those pictures up for the entire world to see AND has my name and city on the pics.  This disturbed me somewhat, so I did some checking, and found that my friend has a different middle initial.  Still, I don’t know and I’m not about to get back in touch just to ask (I’m afraid he’ll say yes).

I wonder how I would react if he had a more appetizing physique.  Would I call him and see if he wants to fuck Wife?

3. Speaking of running into people on the web, I showed Wife a profile for a couple on a sexual matchmaking site I just refound.  Trying to open the door to some play for both of us.  She liked him, and she liked her.  We’ll see.  A few days later I see not only the same man, but the very same picture - Where? as a suggestion for a friend on my real Facebook account!  He is a friend of several of my friends.  And I have met him, though briefly.  At times the thought of hooking up with them excites me, and at times it frightens me.

4. The website I first saw them on is SwingLifeStyle.  I had looked at this site before and found it lacking in ease of use.  But they have been working hard and now it is certainly much better.  Check it out.  When Wife starts looking again, I plan to use it.  Unlike AFF, their rules for free versus paid accounts are clear and easy to find.  If we like it, I might just become a lifetime member.

5. (Warning, this item turned into a long gripe session.  You might want to skip straight to number 6.)  AFF on the other hand is getting more difficult to use.  We are currently standard (free) members and the logic to determine when we can view profiles and when we can’t is completely illogical.  I was on their IM app a few weeks ago and as a couple we get several invites whenever we open the chat.  I always check out the profile of the guy (it’s always a guy, never a woman or couple, always a guy) to get an idea if Wife will be interested at all.  No sense wasting each other’s time.  (Unless, of course, that’s the only reason you’re on and never want to actually meet, Bastards.)  So as I’m chatting, I get two new requests, I open one profile and know it aint going to work.  I open the other profile, but I can’t.  In the minute between these two the system decides no more looks for you - in the middle of the afternoon!  WTF.  And for several days after that I couldn’t view profiles, then suddenly I could view them again.  I don’t understand.

In addition, standard members can no longer leave testimonials.  We finally have met some guys to leave some good testimonials for and we can’t.  ):

They’ve also taken away the ability for us to set Wife’s mood.  I think they may have eliminated it for everyone, not just for standard members, but I could be wrong.  I liked that feature cause it was one of the few things on the profile that we could change without having to wait for our profile to be reapproved  We used it to tell those that wrote that we were not looking at the moment.  We didn’t want to turn off our profile completely but we also didn’t want to have guys think we were ignoring them.  But nope that’s gone too.

Alas there is some good news to report with AFF.  I found that you can get to AFF by going to Passion.com.  Use your same username and login and you get a nearly identical site, with one positive exception.  Your profile, mail, hotlist, friends, cupid setting, everything is there from AFF, and it doesn’t matter which you log into because they use the same database.  So why does it matter which you use?  With Passion.com when you hover over a picture a flyover pops up with a preview of the member’s profile, same as with AFF.  But unlike AFF, you can hotlist them, flirt, or invite them to join your friends network – all things to get the ones you want to notice you and write.  When you can view profiles, this is no big deal, but when you can’t, you can’t do any of those things.

BTW I did find a way to see the less explicit versions of profiles used to entice you to create an account.  Don’t ask me how to do this, I don’t know.  All I know is one of the multiple web browsers I use (the worst one.  You can guess which.) can’t seem to remember that I’m logged in after I do a search by username.  It takes me to the order page and I click the user’s pic and up comes the PG-13 version. (:  Big hassle, but worth it for a select few profiles.

I also found a way to view all the photos in a profile.  If you can view profiles, are a bit computer savvy, and you have some friends in your network with photo albums, you should be able to figure out the web address.  Hint: Use the “Send Voice Message” address and modify it.  Again big hassle and all you get is thumbnails.

Edit:  I wrote this a section a few days ago, but now things have changed yet again.  There is a new alert feature that lets you know when anyone does anything you might be interested in.  You can customize it so you don’t get too many.  It also seems to have an effect on the links on a page (at least in the browser I usually use for that site).  Turn if off if the links on the bottom half of the page don’t work. 

Also, we can once again set Wife’s mood again, but we can no longer view profiles.  In addition, the big company browser is now remembering that we’re logged in and therefore not letting us see the PG profiles again.  But I’ve found if I search on a user name in one browser and get the order page, I can copy the link on the picture and paste it in another browser to see these.

6. Finally, we do have another tale to tell.  It actually happened before I had a chance to write the last series of posts.  But don’t worry, I have good notes.  It just takes a lot of time to write these posts. And then Wife needs to find time to read and check them.  She reads all of them before I publish to make sure I got it right, especially when I try to state what she was experiencing.  That last line in item one might be a bit more difficult after she reads this one.

The More Things Change

It’s been a long time.  We haven’t really done anything as far as getting Wife her lover since July.  So you haven’t missed anything.  Nothing much has changed.

I wrote “Nothing much has changed” an hour ago and immediately I knew it wasn’t completely true.  I had to go back a read how I was before.  I got caught up in my own writing, having forgot much of what I wrote.  But I found what I was looking for.

I thought that the curse I have on cuckold/hotwife sites was broken.  David is writing about Allie again.  Even Suburban Hotwife (mmmh) is blogging again.  DH isn’t blogging, but we do get to hear about him (you lucky bastard – 4 titties at once).  I do believe JessTess is gone for good.  And it is good, with her Husband trying to have a baby.  Some bloggers have gone with out any help from me – Confessor X (although I’m not sure he’s gone) and Ms. Inconspicuous.  She is the lucky one – a loving husband and a loving lover with no sneaking around.  I really wanted to hear the story of how her husband found out and why he let it continue.

So I was thinking that maybe that maybe the sexual world doesn’t revolve around me.  Maybe it’s all just coincidence that sites disappear as soon as I acknowledge them.  Then I wrote “I Must Be Wired Different” about the show Californication.  And that was the last good episode.  I guess my small message wasn’t powerful enough to cause the complete cancellation of the show, but after that his world comes crashing down – including finding out that he had sex with an underage girl in a previous season.  That pretty much ruined my fascination with the show.

What else has changed?  Let see.  Mr. E is no longer in the picture.  It’s a shame too.  He seemed like the best candidate so far for my wife.  He didn’t do anything wrong and neither did we.  Life just got in the way.

I still want to tell you about our Night at the Bar in the Land of Misfit Toys – I hope I still have my notes.  But that will have to wait.  As for the sex with Wife mentioned in that post, I have no idea what that is referring to.  Sorry it must have been hot.

Another thing that has changed is my attitude towards my wife’s fantasy.  You may recall I was anxious about Wife wanting me to eat her after her lover has filled her with cum.  During my hiatus, I have been training and now the sight of a cream pie actually makes my mouth water and my penis tingle.  I especially like seeing video of a man’s balls tightening as he strokes and fills the woman with cum then pulls out showing her open pussy filled with cum.  I want to dive in.  I always knew that I would eventually do it because I wanted Wife’s fantasy to come true, but I never thought this would become my fantasy too.

So I guess things have changed.  But you really didn’t miss anything.

Other than we have started looking again.  We are both horny for her to have another man.  And we have set up two dates for this weekend.  One for Friday, one for Saturday.  One young, one younger.  One white, one black.  One straight, one bi-curious (maybe I can get my cock sucked by the man who cuckolds me:)).  This should be a fun weekend.

Just Whose Fantasy Is This Anyway? (or What’s With All The Parentheses? And Why So Damn Many Questions?)

Anonymous posted an interesting comment to Ketchup July 8, 2009.  I have to thank him for providing the thought provoking input that got me to create this post.  He (I think Anon is a he.  Hard to tell really.  Could be a woman, I guess.  Maybe Anon isn’t even sure.  But I think he’s a man and therefore I’m going to assume he is.) thinks that I (that sure loses the (sarcastic mimicking) emphasis of being in all caps) am the one with a fantasy and Wife is “going along for the ride.”

Now Sexy PTA Mom is definitely a woman.  Wow what a woman.  She also posted a comment to that post.  I spent some time looking at her blog.  In fact I went there first (and went back again too (not cause I liked it, but because it was intellectually stimulating (oh and the pictures are very artistic, makes you feel real emotion :) (Can you guess which one?)) In fact I think I might go there for some stimulation (intellectual that is (Hey if I’m going to be accused of thinking with it, I might as well)) right now)) before I ever gave a thought to Anon’s comment.  It is interesting that these two commented on the same post.  Sexy PTA Mom admits that this was her husband’s fantasy from the beginning and she has done things (enjoyable things) to please him (the piercings, for example).  I think that’s sweet.  However, is it still just his fantasy?  No.  First of all it’s no longer a fantasy.  She is doing it.  And second, she seems to be enjoying it.  It sounds like it is turning into her desire as well as his.  At least I hope so.

But Anon’s comment begs for a response.  He asks if he is right.  Seems like I have two choices, yes or no.  Is he right?  In some ways, yes.  In other ways, no.  So to answer, I need to address each part of his comment:

“I found your blog few weeks ago and love your writing!!”
Correct – who would not love my writing ;)

“As far as finding a lover for wife, you both discussed that option (stated 3.8.09.). You say she enjoyed that discussion immensely.”
Correct – We have had many discussions over the past 4 years about seriously finding her other men with whom to enjoy sex.  Prior to that it was something that I told her she could do, but she wasn’t sure I meant it.  (I’ll have to go into our history sometime, but that’s another epic post.)  Mostly it was a bedroom topic, but 4 years ago it became “real”.  That is, it became a real option for her.  An option she considered obtainable.  Since then it has always been something she could do if she chooses to do.  And, yes she does enjoy these discussions, but it wasn’t just one discussion.

“You also mention that you are smart, good looding etc.”
Incorrect - I have never looded!  But I am a smart(ass) blogger.

“I guess am still curious as to why you want a lover for her. I think that it's YOU that wants to watch etc.”
Oh yeah!  Well I think it is YOU that wants to watch etc.  Don’t you?  You’d like to see my wife getting banged by another man.  Yes, I enjoyed seeing my wife have sex with STM, but not for the exact reasons that I think you think I have. 

“Otherwise, you would be swingers and share couples..”
WRONG – Believe me, if I had my way we would be swingers and sharing other couples (and single women).  I’m as horny for women as they come.  But as I said in my profile, I’m faithful.  I couldn’t enjoy myself doing anything like that if Wife didn’t give me the OK, and she hasn’t :(.  You may not believe that.  You might think all men are dogs (which, of course, we are, but some of us are house broken), and will hump anything we can.  But I could never risk losing my wife for some hot, steamy, passionate, all night long, doing it over and over again, in the car, on the patio, in the hall, on the stairs, in the bed, in the shower, in the garage, strange, 4 women on me sex.  And occasionally she does let me off the leash for a little while :).

“Sounds like it YOUR fantasy and wife is going along for the ride.”
Incorrect – She is definitely not along for the ride.  She wants a long term lover.

Now I admit that have I enjoyed the idea of cuckolding for a long time.  I’ve always been sexually excited by the idea of women who are not shy about getting the sex they want.  I like watching porn actresses get fucked by multiple men especially when it is her choice rather than the men’s.  A married woman that gets sex from other men is getting what she wants and I love that her sex drive is so high.  I also like the idea that these strong women deny their men.  That some put them in chastity devices and never have sex with them again.  I like these women.  I want to have sex with them, but do I want my wife to be one of them?  Hell No.

So why do I do it?  Why do I want my wife to have a lover?  I stated it in the first thing I ever wrote for this blog, my profile.  I love her.  I want her to have what she wants.  I want her to have the best life she can.  I want her to enjoy sex at its best.  I give her what I can (and that is pretty good I’m told), but even so I want her to have more.  STM was great with his tongue (I’m good with my tongue, but not great) and others might be better at this or that.  I want her to have it.  I want her to have two men.  I want her to have what she wants.  If she didn’t want this, there would be no fun in the fantasy for me.

How do I know she wants a long term lover?  I asked, dumbass (sorry, the smartass came out again (or maybe it never went in)).  Let me explain.  Four years ago, when it looked like this might become more than a fantasy, I asked Wife how she wanted to proceed, what she wanted in a man.  Then I changed my desires to match her desires.  For example, I thought it would be best to start with a man that there is no chance we will ever see again, but I didn’t tell Wife that.  I let her tell me what she wanted.  She wanted, in effect, a boyfriend.  That was hard for me.  I’ve never told her that.  I wanted her to try sex once to see how it went, and she wanted to have a guy she likes first and can see and fuck on a regular basis.  I did not let on my reservations but went about changing my feelings.

How did I do this?  I thought about it over a long period.  I did not take action until I had time to thoroughly contemplate it.  I asked if she wouldn’t like to start in the way I had considered.  She said no, she didn’t want just some stranger.  That wasn’t her.  She needed to feel something for him before she would want to sleep with him (She’s a good girl at heart, even when she is bad.  Sleeping with someone just for fun was something good girls just didn’t do. A one night stand? Out of the question.  (A long term boyfriend for a married woman though was a different matter, though. :) ))  Finally, I fantasized about it.  I took my cock in my hand and stroked myself while thinking about my wife out on a date with her boyfriend, about her spending the night (or weekend) with him, about the three of us celebrating her birthday together, about him being a part of our life and how much Wife would enjoy that.

This is a technique that I came (literally :) ) across awhile back.  See, I used to (OK still do) think about all kinds of things while I masturbated.  Some of these things were the type of things that you don’t find exciting (like your wife having sex with other men) except when you are really aroused.  My standard process was to think of these things while I stroked, but to switch to a more acceptable fantasy (like me fucking a big chested babe) just before I came.  The downside to this was right after I came I felt a bit of shame/guilt/disgust about what had made me so hot.  I didn’t like that that had made me so excited (Guess I’ve got some baggage too.).  But it was always short lived, just a few minutes and I could easily get my mind off it.  Well, one day I was deep in one of these fantasies, and it must have been a really good one, but I really don’t remember what it was, and I got close to cumming.  Like I said I must have been deep into this fantasy, because while my brain could tell me that it’s time to switch to the “safe” fantasy, it was too confused by all the pleasure coming from my cock to be able to think of one.  I couldn’t come up with anything other than what I was already thinking.  I tried to hold back to give my brain time but that only increased the pleasure and urgency to cum.  My mind was spinning.  Finally, I couldn’t stop it any longer and I came with one of the most satisfying orgasms I ever gave myself.  (I told you I was good.)  As I laid there, my brain and body exhausted, my chest covered with the huge amount of cum I produced, I was completely satisfied and content.  I knew the fantasy that had brought me to this state.  I had used it many times before, but this time there was no shame/guilt/disgust, only contentment.  The more I did this with a fantasy, the more I could enjoy that fantasy when I wasn’t aroused.

So I used this technique with my wife and her boyfriend.  This was the first time I used it to make one of my wife’s fantasies mine, but not the last.  It worked.  After each time I felt more at ease with the idea.  After many times, it became my desire too because I want my wife to have everything she can.  Now the thought of her enjoying not just another man’s cock, but her lover’s cock, is getting me excited.  If anyone is riding on the other’s fantasy, it’s me riding hers.  But really this desire is ours, not hers, not mine, ours.

“Am I right????”
Let’s see: 3 correct and 3 incorrect.  So it’s a tie.

“Great job in writing and keeping us entertained!!”
I’ll do my best.  And when I can’t, I’ll still try to keep you up to date on the quest.  That shouldn’t be too difficult this month.  Wife is out of town for 3 weeks, and there is virtually no chance that she will be able to do much of anything in regards to finding a lover.  When she gets back, hopefully there will be a bunch of horny guys ready to meet her.

Ketchup July 8, 2009

Hi.  It’s been awhile.  Wife has taken up the reigns on finding a lover and writing the blog.  She has found out that it is a lot of work, and has found the time to only perform the highest priority tasks, which, of course, are the actual searching rather than the writing.

She’s been corresponding with several guys on AM, AFF and email.  She has texted and talked on the phone with one man that we are getting close to meeting.  In fact we had a date set up for last Saturday, but we had to move it to Sunday.  On Sunday, he got called out of town.  We (meaning Wife and he) are working on setting another date.

He is a discreet man, but can be aggressive once given the go ahead.  He’s smart and a good conversationalist (so I’ve heard from Wife).  I think he may work out to be Wife’s lover, but since we don’t have a firm date set up with him, I’m hesitant to assign him a letter yet.

There are several others that we (Wife) would consider meeting (and maybe more) if this one doesn’t work out.  I guess we’ll have to wait and see.

Lastly, tonight we are going to dinner with Firecracker.  I always enjoy going out with her.  Will anything exciting happen?  Probably not, there will be other family members there.  Still it’s always fun.

Ketchup - 6/7/09

Ketchup - 6/7/09
No time to write.  Even worse, no time to play.
We’ve both been very busy the last couple of weeks, and we’re busy again next weekend.  We haven’t arranged any more meetings.

We have not heard back from Mr. A.  He’s a gold member on AFF and has logged in as late as yesterday.  I don’t get it.  Why would you pay to be a gold member and spend time emailing if you don’t really want to meet anyone?

Mr. C has been conspicuously quiet.   He is on AM and he logged in 2 days ago, but didn’t answer our latest email.  Could be that he’s busy.  Or it could be because we asked if he is a smoker.  In his profile, he left that question blank.  We assumed that meant he was a smoker, so we asked.

Mr. D is another situation altogether.  We asked for his cell number and Wife has texted with him a few times.  He seems very eager. 

I started writing this post 4 days ago and got interrupted.  Now we have asked Mr. D if he would like to meet this Saturday for drinks.  We’ll let you know what he says.

Still haven’t heard from Mr. A or Mr. C and we don’t expect that we ever will.  So right now we’re down to just one Mr.  That’s about all we have time for.  If he doesn’t work out, we’ll start looking again.

Our Double Date with Misters A and B - Epilogue

So Mr. A didn’t show and Mr. B wouldn’t look at Wife.  In fact, Wife tried to give him a sly smile or the look away then back again move, but that’s kind of hard when he won’t look at you.  We waited a few days to hear from him.  I think he should have sent a short note saying he had a good time (even if he didn’t) and thanked us for meeting him.  It’s the gentlemanly thing to do.  I certainly would have.  If he was no longer interested he could have politely added that too.  We sent him a note to say we had a good time, but things seemed a bit off.  We didn’t slam the door, but it was definitely closing.  If he was interested, he needed to reply that he had a great time and had really hoped to see more of us (or Wife).  Instead he politely replied that Wife didn’t seem interested in him and wished us well.  That closed the door.

We decided that we want someone that is more aggressive.  Mr.s Y and B have been tame.  Even SMT was pretty tame, but he did give Wife some complements and had his hands on her.  (Ah the memories of that night.  Were a white couple, obviously married, in a restaurant with a young black stud sitting next to and feeling up my wife. :-)  I would have liked to hear some of the conversations at other tables or in the kitchen.) And she reminded me that his texts were pretty hot!  For our first time, that was the perfect mix of being non-threatening and lustful.  Next time though, Wife wants more.  She wants to know that he is hot for her, that he wants her and can’t wait to fuck her.

We wrote Mr. A an email to see if there was some misunderstanding.  He says he was there!  There is another restaurant with the same name about 30 miles away, but it is in another city.  We had agreed on this one.  It is possible he had the wrong day or time, or even was at the other one.  We didn’t push it.  If it was a true miscommunication, then OK we’ll give him another try.  We said that we need to exchange phone numbers so this won’t happen again (and so he and Wife can text each other).  The message was sent yesterday, and Mr. A has demonstrated that he only checks AFF every 3 or 4 days.  So it’s no surprise that we haven’t heard from him.  We’ll get his number and check him out.  If we don’t have any more surprises or red flags, we’ll meet him again.  This time though we probably won’t do dinner.  We need a venue where we can say thanks, but no thanks and leave at any time.  What do you think are some activities that would be appropriate?  Send me an email or leave a comment.

So that’s a twist I didn’t see coming.  Mr. B is out and Mr. A is back in (sort of).  Interesting.

The real interesting part starts with Mr. C.  He has definitely been more aggressive.  His emails have been very suggestive.  That scared Wife off for a bit, but not enough to completely turn her away.  Now suddenly he seems more suitable.

And there is a Mr. D.  He’s is a bit older than us, and we just got his number.  Wife will text with him and we plan to meet him.  However we are still very busy.  Any meetings will have to wait at least two weeks.

Plus there are several others we are just starting to get to know.  It’s starting to seem this might take longer than I thought.  We’ll see.  We’re enjoying the ride.

Ketchup - May 19, 2009

Has it really been a week since my last post? I apologize.

I had planned on writing a post with an AFF review and I know you want to know what's going on since we met STM. Well not much in terms of Wife finding a lover. Plenty in the rest of our lives. This brings up a concern that I knew was coming. Our lives have gotten much busier and will be for several months. I will not have as much time to devote to this blog as I have in the past. I will try to post at least once a week, but I fear that even that is unrealistic. We have set a priority on making some time available to continue to find Wife a lover, but that is not as much as we had in the past.

All I can say is that I will try to post at least once a week with at least a short status.

So, for the last few weeks we have been emailing with 4 guys every few days. These are the top 4 that Wife has picked from the many we have had contact with. We will be meeting 2 of them Saturday night, one for dinner and one 3 hours later for drinks. I know, 2 in one night! However, these will be PG-13 rated meetings as Wife wants to take it slow. Wife has decided, though, she will meet and, if she is still interested, have sex with all 4 guys before she makes her choice of a long term lover.

I’ll let you know what happens.

Ketchup – April 23, 2009

It’s been awhile since I posted. Five days. I think that is my longest dry spell yet. And even that post was a fantasy. So I haven’t shared anything about us in over a week. Must not have been anything to share. ;)

We did sign up for AM, AFF and another online site. As of today, we’ve had no luck on AM. Surprising, I thought that would bring out a, I don’t know, more sophisticated man. I think the fact that Wife did not hide that I know of her activities probably frightened off some. Wimps! :)

The unnamed site (AM and AFF are too big to fail, this one’s not, and you know my track record with endorsing sites, lol) has one interesting prospect, but he hasn’t been on since 2 days before we entered our profile. He would definitely find us if he did a search, and I think he would at least be interested. I guess we need to write to him. He lives about an hour away, but half way there are restaurants and hotels. What more do we need? :)

But we haven’t gotten around to that yet cause of all the activity on AFF. We put up a quick profile without much effort in it and got winks (and spanks), hotlisted and several emails. Then we went back and created a profile of which we can be proud (although our first one had more info than many others). This resulted in even more winks, hotlisting and emails. We are now seriously emailing with one guy, who we will probably meet, and started emailing with a couple of others.

(The AFF is a little confusing. We are standard members. I thought we would look around for a few days to see what it is like. Now I click on some things and it takes me to the order page. OK I guess I need to upgrade for that feature. That’s fine. But do I upgrade gold or silver? Nothing tells me what I can do as a standard member, as a silver member, or as a gold member (I think there are also VIP members). Usually at this point I just hit the back arrow and get back to the naughty bits. Yesterday, I finally went looking for a membership benefits or FAQ page. Couldn’t find one. So I thought, why upgrade? We’re getting more action than we can handle already. If they had just shown me a simple table listing what you can do for free, as a silver member and as a gold member, I would have already signed up for 3 months. I guess the marketing strategy is aimed at the single males.)

I guess at some point I am going to have to figure out how to tell everyone that we are not currently accepting resumes as we are in the process of interviewing candidates to fill the slut slot, but that should there be another opening we will update our profile and start looking again.

So the poll results were 3 for Craigslist, 2 for AM and 2 for AFF. After less than 2 weeks of data, we can reach some tentative conclusions. For us it looks like AFF is working out the best. I like that there is a form of feedback on the profiles. That probably means I’m going to have to figure out to which level we should upgrade. AM is not for couples and therefore probably won’t yield promising results. The unnamed site really only has the one prospect for us and we’ll see how that works out.

I haven’t said anything about Craigslist. I guess it’s been OK. It gave us Mr. X (a dud, but if he wrote to us today, we would go meet him), Mr. Y (nice guy, but the chemistry wasn’t there), and now Mr. Z.

Ketchup April 7, 2009

And appearently Mr. X is still in the picture. He sent a message that made Wife VERY excited.

Ketchup April 06, 2009

Friday night, she did.

We have a Mr. Y on the hook. Can we land him? We shall see.

Ketchup April 3, 2009

I heard the word Snowshoe in conversation today. Go figure. And it had nothing to do with snow.

(If you're the one who said it and you're reading this blog, you should be able to tell who I am. If you want to play with Wife and me, let me know.) Longshot I know.

We've been busy and haven't devoted much time to finding Mr. Y. Probably will look in earnest this weekend. No comments yet to help us choose an online site for this. Maybe I'll put up a poll - if I can figure out how :) .

Speaking of feedback, I found out how to add Reaction checkboxes for each post. You can just click on your choice and it tallys your vote without you having to leave the page. It's quick and easy. I see that my page load count is over 2000, but I have no idea if that's 2000 people that take one look and hate everything or if it's 50 people that follow my everyword. Go ahead, check a box, let me know. (BTY you can go back to previous posts and let me know which ones you like (or really didn't like) too. That's getting a little too pushy isn't it. Ok only do that if you want to. lol)

Ketchup March 25, 2009

Miscellaneous items that have happened lately, not the main course, i.e. no sex (probably) just a condiment

Mr. X's unexpected trip has been extended. We did not meet him last Sunday, nor Monday or Tuesday or Wednesday for that matter. At one point I thought maybe he found my blog and was scared off, but we believe that he has just been unusually busy lately. We will meet, I'm just not sure when.

I mentioned that Suburban Hotwife made a post. She mentioned Me! That was a very pleasant surprise. I didn't get a chance to post a comment Saturday night, but I woke up in the wee hours and did. Afterwards I checked my blog and the page hits count has gone way up (and continues to) thanks to her. Then I see it. I have a follower and it’s SH! I still can’t sleep, but I’m happy. I crawl back in bed next to Wife and we cuddle while she sleeps. I finally sleep too. Life is good.

Sunday night my wife stayed up later than I and she eventually read SH’s blog. She followed the link in her latest post to this blog. Wife read several posts and came to bed, but didn't wake me. In the morning she said "You've been busy" with a big smile. Tuesday night she read all the posts and comments from the beginning. So now she knows and she’s happy.

Catching Up Since Wednesday

Thursday night I asked for and received a blowjob/handjob. We usually don't just do me because I enjoy seeing her have pleasure. As we were tired and needed to get to sleep soon, Wife was happy to oblige me (this time). Wife told me to think about me, her and one other person to join us. Of course, I thought of Firecracker. I thoroughly enjoyed it, and Wife never asked who I was thinking about. It was fairly quick and then we went to sleep.

Last night we went to dinner with Firecracker. It was a last minute decision to go out for a drink, that turned into meeting Firecracker for a drink, that turned into meeting for dinner. As we had a few members of both our families present, there were only veiled innuendos of past events and secretive smiles. We had a delicious meal and drinks at a seafood restaurant that lead to a night of ... watching TV. As we were catching up on some shows on the DVR I received a text from Firecracker. She had intended to invite us back to her place for a beer (Do you think she meant "and maybe something more?") but forgot. Next time maybe we'll make something worth writing about happen.

In regard to meeting with Mr. X, we hadn't heard from him since last Sunday. We were beginning to wonder. Finally on Friday afternoon I received an email. He got called out of the country on business and apologized. We may get to meet tomorrow, but maybe not. As always, I'll keep you posted.