Public Service Announcement - Private Photos on AFF are NOT Private

A few months ago AFF added a feature called Activities.  It list your status, friends you’ve accepted, what sections of your profile information that you’ve update, and photos that you have uploaded, like the social network sites.

We uploaded some photos of us with our faces visible recently.  We intended to share these only with selected people via the email system.  I was cautious to be sure they were not available for everyone to see.  And if you go to our photo page, no one can see them.  Today I was perusing AFF and by chance decided to view our profile and was surprised to see our faces in the Activities section.  Right there for everyone that clicks on our profile to see.  Even free members.  Everyone!

After noticing this, I did some looking around and saw a face picture of a man we met that is keeping his AFF activities from his wife.  We only met him for drinks and it was obvious that he had everything to lose if she found out.  But there on his profile page is a one inch square picture of his face.  No denying it’s him with that pic.

I immediately started looking for a way to delete this activity update, but that doesn’t seem to be an option except for the current status.  After a half hour, while I considered deleting our photos and even deleting our entire account, I was able to get them removed from the Activity section (and keep them in a private album).

By default, AFF shows ALL the photos you’ve uploaded in the Activities section, even if you made the album private.  Here is what you do to fix it:  Click the Activities tab.  Select “Preferences” in the list on the left.  Change “Upload a photo to an album” to No.  Now you would think they would be gone, but they weren’t.  Maybe I just didn’t wait long enough.  So I took these additional steps:  Navigate to “Manage Photos”.  Create a new album and set the privacy settings as you like.  Drag and drop photos from your other album to the new one.  Now they should be gone from the Activities section.  You might be able to drag and drop them back in the original album if you like, but I didn’t try.

Hope this helps someone avoid so embarrassment.

Oh, we’re going out to meet a couple tonight.  Hopefully there will be something more fun to write about soon.

An Update May 15, 2010

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Odds and Ends - February 13, 2010

1. Wife sucked BD’s (Black Diamond, aka Mr. G) cock while we were parked in the SUV at the end of the last adventure.  I forgot to mention that.  Unfortunately, I couldn’t see it in the dark.  I like seeing a cock in her mouth.  She hasn’t sucked my cock in months and his was in her mouth twice in the first two times that she went out with him.  I’m glad she is comfortable enough with him to suck his dick.

I might just have to have her suck mine tonight - whether she wants to or not.

2. I ran across an old friend from school a few weeks ago on the web.  He has a fairly distinctive name and while surfing some erotic sites on web, there it was.  About right age and height, but he had grown a beard and gained weight so it was a bit hard to recognize the face (and I certainly never saw the rest of him, before).  Still I was in disbelief.  This man lived a several hours from where we went to school.  Could be him, but might not. Yet there he was – doing some things that I wouldn’t do, but things that are exciting to see some one else do (although he took it a bit too far, and he was a bit, ok a lot, out of shape).  Still he’s got some balls to put those pictures up for the entire world to see AND has my name and city on the pics.  This disturbed me somewhat, so I did some checking, and found that my friend has a different middle initial.  Still, I don’t know and I’m not about to get back in touch just to ask (I’m afraid he’ll say yes).

I wonder how I would react if he had a more appetizing physique.  Would I call him and see if he wants to fuck Wife?

3. Speaking of running into people on the web, I showed Wife a profile for a couple on a sexual matchmaking site I just refound.  Trying to open the door to some play for both of us.  She liked him, and she liked her.  We’ll see.  A few days later I see not only the same man, but the very same picture - Where? as a suggestion for a friend on my real Facebook account!  He is a friend of several of my friends.  And I have met him, though briefly.  At times the thought of hooking up with them excites me, and at times it frightens me.

4. The website I first saw them on is SwingLifeStyle.  I had looked at this site before and found it lacking in ease of use.  But they have been working hard and now it is certainly much better.  Check it out.  When Wife starts looking again, I plan to use it.  Unlike AFF, their rules for free versus paid accounts are clear and easy to find.  If we like it, I might just become a lifetime member.

5. (Warning, this item turned into a long gripe session.  You might want to skip straight to number 6.)  AFF on the other hand is getting more difficult to use.  We are currently standard (free) members and the logic to determine when we can view profiles and when we can’t is completely illogical.  I was on their IM app a few weeks ago and as a couple we get several invites whenever we open the chat.  I always check out the profile of the guy (it’s always a guy, never a woman or couple, always a guy) to get an idea if Wife will be interested at all.  No sense wasting each other’s time.  (Unless, of course, that’s the only reason you’re on and never want to actually meet, Bastards.)  So as I’m chatting, I get two new requests, I open one profile and know it aint going to work.  I open the other profile, but I can’t.  In the minute between these two the system decides no more looks for you - in the middle of the afternoon!  WTF.  And for several days after that I couldn’t view profiles, then suddenly I could view them again.  I don’t understand.

In addition, standard members can no longer leave testimonials.  We finally have met some guys to leave some good testimonials for and we can’t.  ):

They’ve also taken away the ability for us to set Wife’s mood.  I think they may have eliminated it for everyone, not just for standard members, but I could be wrong.  I liked that feature cause it was one of the few things on the profile that we could change without having to wait for our profile to be reapproved  We used it to tell those that wrote that we were not looking at the moment.  We didn’t want to turn off our profile completely but we also didn’t want to have guys think we were ignoring them.  But nope that’s gone too.

Alas there is some good news to report with AFF.  I found that you can get to AFF by going to Passion.com.  Use your same username and login and you get a nearly identical site, with one positive exception.  Your profile, mail, hotlist, friends, cupid setting, everything is there from AFF, and it doesn’t matter which you log into because they use the same database.  So why does it matter which you use?  With Passion.com when you hover over a picture a flyover pops up with a preview of the member’s profile, same as with AFF.  But unlike AFF, you can hotlist them, flirt, or invite them to join your friends network – all things to get the ones you want to notice you and write.  When you can view profiles, this is no big deal, but when you can’t, you can’t do any of those things.

BTW I did find a way to see the less explicit versions of profiles used to entice you to create an account.  Don’t ask me how to do this, I don’t know.  All I know is one of the multiple web browsers I use (the worst one.  You can guess which.) can’t seem to remember that I’m logged in after I do a search by username.  It takes me to the order page and I click the user’s pic and up comes the PG-13 version. (:  Big hassle, but worth it for a select few profiles.

I also found a way to view all the photos in a profile.  If you can view profiles, are a bit computer savvy, and you have some friends in your network with photo albums, you should be able to figure out the web address.  Hint: Use the “Send Voice Message” address and modify it.  Again big hassle and all you get is thumbnails.

Edit:  I wrote this a section a few days ago, but now things have changed yet again.  There is a new alert feature that lets you know when anyone does anything you might be interested in.  You can customize it so you don’t get too many.  It also seems to have an effect on the links on a page (at least in the browser I usually use for that site).  Turn if off if the links on the bottom half of the page don’t work. 

Also, we can once again set Wife’s mood again, but we can no longer view profiles.  In addition, the big company browser is now remembering that we’re logged in and therefore not letting us see the PG profiles again.  But I’ve found if I search on a user name in one browser and get the order page, I can copy the link on the picture and paste it in another browser to see these.

6. Finally, we do have another tale to tell.  It actually happened before I had a chance to write the last series of posts.  But don’t worry, I have good notes.  It just takes a lot of time to write these posts. And then Wife needs to find time to read and check them.  She reads all of them before I publish to make sure I got it right, especially when I try to state what she was experiencing.  That last line in item one might be a bit more difficult after she reads this one.

Cast of Characters

Amazing.  That’s the word for it.  I’ve got a few minutes to finally write another post.  But don’t get your hopes up.  Between my schedule, Wife’s first and second jobs (the third one hasn’t started yet and may never), and the family problems (which have come to a conclusion) we haven’t had much time to advance our search, much less write here or even just check my email.

I had a request by the lovely Anon to provide a summary when I return.  It’s a good thing Anon is hot (at least in my imagination) otherwise I might have taken her request as a sarcastic jab about my lack of writing.  So here it is, but I warn you, this entry has spoilers.  So you might want to click here to start from the beginning.

Wife - The most wonderful woman in the world.  She’s looking to find a man that she cares for and will fuck her whenever they want.

Quietman - That’s me, your narrator, as well as Wife’s husband.  In fact, her Cuckold Husband, albeit just once horned, so far.  Wife and I started on this adventure in earnest in March, and we have been looking for the right men to physically please her.  As I said before, I love my wife.  I love her without limitations or conditions.  I want the best for her.  I want her to be as happy/excited/fulfilled as possible.  I want her to get the most out of life.  A few years ago, I finally convinced her that her enjoying the pleasure of another man (or woman) would make me happy that she is happy.

Mr. X - The first man we met on Craigslist.  He was looking to orally please a married woman.  He was not interested in fucking or getting sucked, just eating pussy.  We exchanged emails often and he did make Wife excited.  Now he was no Quietman when it came to writing, but he was pretty good.  I think a significant portion of the thrill was due to this being the first man we were chatting with.  To know that there is a man who wants to eat Wife’s pussy and is close enough to make it happen in just a few minutes was very sexhilarating.  (I made that typo while I was writing and felt it was appropriate.)  After several weeks it became apparent that he wasn’t interested in meeting.

Mr. Y - The second man we met on Craigslist.  We exchanged a few emails with him before we exchanged phone numbers.  Wife gave him a call and liked talking to him.  We set up a meeting.  When the big night came, we were nervous and eager.  We had fun, but it just didn’t feel right.

Mr. Z - Single Track Mind (STM).  We had been looking for a couple of months and without any luck.  Then we had a weekend away planned and we set up a fun night to kick it off with STM.  He is several years younger than us.  It was a very thrilling night that ended with STM fucking my Wife for a couple of hours.  He was very good with his tongue and Wife thoroughly enjoyed her first time.

Mr.’s A & B - After the thrill of our night with STM and the romance of the long weekend we were ready to find someone that would be a permanent fuck for her.  We set up accounts on AFF and AM and soon were getting mail and winks/flirts from several men.  We found a few that we liked and after awhile, we arranged to meet them.  My extra responsibilities had started and our nights to go out were limited.  So we arranged two meetings for the same night, one early and one later.  Well, Mr. A didn’t show up.  Thankfully, Mr. B did.  We had fun with him, but again, it just didn’t feel right.

Mr. C - He was quite aggressive and confident via email.  Wife was a bit nervous about him, wasn’t sure she could handle him.  He was crude, but in a very sexy way.  It was a couple weeks since we started exchanging emails, that we tried to set up a meet, but he seemed to loose interest.  Guess he was more a man of talk than action.

Mr. D - He’s a couple years older than us and was very eager to meet Wife and me.  By this time, my extra responsibilities were taking almost all of my time.  We found it difficult to set up a meeting.  He and Wife continued to exchange emails and texts.  Finally we found a date that worked for all of us.  A few days before, I sent him an email to make sure we were all on the same page.  I didn’t want him to expect anything more than dinner that night as well as remind him of our expectations.  Luckily for us, he showed his real colors and replied with “WAY TOO MANY RULES” and called it off.

Mr. E - Have I told you about Mr. E yet?  I’ll have to sometime.

Until I have time to tell you the story of Mr. E, enjoy this Aussie cuck couple.  He had to edit the video to avoid showing faces so it seems choppy, but I like it.

QM

Adult Friend Finder Find Me a Friend (with a Big Cock)

It’s Saturday night and I’m writing a post.  That can mean only one thing, Wife’s out on our date alone with Mr. D?  No, it means that Mr. D couldn’t make it tonight.  But he and Wife talked on the phone for the first time this week.  She liked it.  We might meet next Wednesday evening.

Since I’m not out meeting the man attached to the next cock to be in my wife, I thought I would torture you with a long boring post about AFF.  I gave you my first impressions nearly 2 months ago.  Since then I have learned a lot about AFF.

When you first register for AFF you select your gender, what you are looking for, your location, a valid email address, and your choice of user names (something like ImTheQuietMan.  You may have to try a few cause your first choice, say QuietMan, might already been taken.)  That gets you to a second screen of questions.  You select from a list of choices for things like your sexual orientation, height, smoking, etc.  You can upload a photo if you wish.  At the bottom of the page you will find the most difficult question, “Tell others about yourself”.  After this you will receive an email with the password.

Get your password and login.  You go to the Order page.  You can sign up for a silver or gold membership at this time (but see later why to wait).  You are now a standard member (Doesn’t that sound like it translates to average dick?).  Near the top of the page are menus for Home, Mailbox, Account, Search/Browse, Friends, My Lists, Chat, Get Local, Video, Blogs, Groups, and Shop.  Look around and see what you like.  I must admit it took me a long time to find my way around.  And I still haven’t tried all the features available to standard members.

At this point you won’t be able to do some things until your profile is approved.  I think they mainly check to see that you haven’t done anything illegal or posted contact info.  It shouldn’t be long though.  They say it can take up to 48 hours, but both accounts that I have set up were approved in about 2.

Here’s some of what you can do.

Home:
•    On the left side shows the number of messages, flirts, points, referrals (not sure what this is), new matches, views of your profile, and friends.  Click on any of them to go to a page with details.
•    You’ll probably notice the center section first, cause it’s got lots of naked people (It was weeks before I realized there was anything else on the page, lol).  Not sure why this is here, because they are from anywhere in the world, and usually nowhere near you.  Still you can’t help but look at them and mouse over the little i for a bit of info.
•    Click on the Online Matches at the top (or Our New Matches on the left) and if you’re like me, you’ll find a lot of guys in Dodge have limp dicks.  These are a few of the people near you that you might be interested in.  You can change your cupid settings so the default search is more to your liking and also to filter you incoming mail.

Mailbox:
•    The mailbox shows you the number of unread messages in the menu bar
•    You will have an email from the system.  READ IT.  It gives you good information about being successful using the site.  Save it and read it again later.  It apparently has a link to a benefits page that lists what you get for as an average dick, silver dick or gold dick.  That’s the one thing I’ve bitched the most about, and fuck if they didn’t tell me on the first day.  Typical man, never reads the instructions.

Account: where you can update your profile and change account settings.

Search/Browse:  duh, but limited for standard members

Friends: You can collect friends.  What good is that?  As far as I can tell, you get to see their private photos.

My Lists:  here you can get lots of good info on whose viewed you, flirted with you, and hotlisted you, as well as who you have flirted with and hotlisted.

Chat:  haven’t used

Get Local:  use this to find out about places and events near you.  This is based on your IP location, not the place you might have picked as your location when you signed up, say Dodge City.  But you can change it to anywhere.

Video: check out member’s webcams.  Only one can be open at a time for standard members.  I watched a woman cuckold her husband with their friend one night.  That was really cool.  Another time I found a woman in Spain showing off to just 2 people.  When I joined, her robe closed quickly (but not quick enough) and she then went private.

Blogs, Groups, and Shop:  haven’t used them (why bother, my blog’s not on there!)

What I like:
•    This site it made for everyone.  No matter what gets you up, they got it.  (Unless you’re into something illegal.  In which case, you’re on your own, buddy.)
•    You can sign up as a male, a female, a couple (man and woman, 2 women, or 2 men), a group, or a TS/TV/TG
•    There are lots of people on here.  We’ve had contact with men, women and couples.  Most from our area, but some from around the world.
•   If you are popular, you can view profiles as a standard member.
•    Mailbox shows how many unread messages you have in the menu bar
•    After a few days, we got a discount on upgrading.  First it was 10% for about a week.  Then it went to 20% for about 2 weeks.  Finally it went to 40% for less than a week.  By then, I was busy and missed the chance.  After, it returned to 20%, then 10%.  Now it is full price again.  We’re still happy as standard members, so no need to pay just yet.
•    LOTS of good stuff.  Profiles, chat, webcams, local info, flirts and more
•    Anyone can flirt with anyone
•    Email By name who has sent you a message in AFF
•    Emails showing which members have put you on their flirted with, hotlisted, and viewed you
•    Emails showing new members and matches in your area
•    Upload a voice greeting and send voice messages
•   Post photos, standard members can only see a thumbnail of the main photo.  Others can see more (silver limited to 5 and to approximately 3x2” area, gold can see all full size).  There is one woman who rotates her pics every few days so we can see them all.  You can also upload private photos for your friends network to see.
•   You can hide your profile
•   You can set up an auto response to incoming emails

Additional services available for a fee:
•    Always be able to view profiles
•    Keep emails longer (60 or 120 days)
•    View photos in profiles (up to 5 per profile for silver, unlimited for gold)
•    Advanced search
•    View members’ videos
•    Priority placement in profile lists, search results, etc
•    Telephone tech support

What I don’t like:
•    Haven’t found a way to change the password from the random characters the registration process creates to something I can remember.
•    Sometimes when you leave a webcam, you can’t open another right away.  You have to wait up to 2 minutes for it to realize you have closed that window.  Othertimes it works fine.
•    Hard to find your way around.  I’ve been using it for 2 months and still have a hard time ;) finding everything.
•    Your emails are somehow screened.  I think it is electronically looking for certain words.  We had a guy (Mr. A) send us his profile name with another site name.  His email was caught and we got a message saying he sent something inappropriate.  You can’t give out contact info for the first 2 messages.  We’ve seen people put things like contact me at xxx on the why in other screened fields.
•    There is no “I’m not interested in you, loser!” flirt
•    It keeps your profile forever.  We saw the old one we abandoned 3 years ago.  We no longer have the email account associated with it so we can’t log in.
•    If you hide your profile, no one can contact you, even those you have been emailing aready.


What I don’t know:
•    How you become popular.  Is it based on the number of emails you receive?  That might explain why we can sometimes see profiles and sometimes not.  Although there seems to have been a widespread problem with viewing profiles in early May.
•    What are referrals?

Summary:
Overall, I like Adult Friend Finder.  We have met some good and some not so good guys on this site.  The site is definitely there to make money, which I don’t have a problem with.  We will probably sign up someday (if Mr. D isn’t enough).  The site is horrible to navigate.  There are many screens with similar info, and finding the one you saw last time is frustrating.  On top of that, sometimes we are popular and have extra privileges and sometimes we are not.  There is no way to tell.  That’s not true.  You can see if you can view others profiles.  If not, you’re not.  But we didn’t know about the extra privileges for a long time and couldn’t understand why we could view things one day and not the next.

There are a lot of active people on this site.  So much so, we had to put a message on our profile telling people that we we’re looking right now.  That slowed down the messages and flirts, but didn’t stop them.  Wife wants to wait until we meet with Mr. D before we open it up again.

I do recommend Adult Friend Finder.  I think it is good for a quick hook up and for finding a long term relationship.  It all depends on who you meet, just like anywhere.  Only on AFF you know a bit about what each is looking for first.

Our Double Date with Misters A and B - Epilogue

So Mr. A didn’t show and Mr. B wouldn’t look at Wife.  In fact, Wife tried to give him a sly smile or the look away then back again move, but that’s kind of hard when he won’t look at you.  We waited a few days to hear from him.  I think he should have sent a short note saying he had a good time (even if he didn’t) and thanked us for meeting him.  It’s the gentlemanly thing to do.  I certainly would have.  If he was no longer interested he could have politely added that too.  We sent him a note to say we had a good time, but things seemed a bit off.  We didn’t slam the door, but it was definitely closing.  If he was interested, he needed to reply that he had a great time and had really hoped to see more of us (or Wife).  Instead he politely replied that Wife didn’t seem interested in him and wished us well.  That closed the door.

We decided that we want someone that is more aggressive.  Mr.s Y and B have been tame.  Even SMT was pretty tame, but he did give Wife some complements and had his hands on her.  (Ah the memories of that night.  Were a white couple, obviously married, in a restaurant with a young black stud sitting next to and feeling up my wife. :-)  I would have liked to hear some of the conversations at other tables or in the kitchen.) And she reminded me that his texts were pretty hot!  For our first time, that was the perfect mix of being non-threatening and lustful.  Next time though, Wife wants more.  She wants to know that he is hot for her, that he wants her and can’t wait to fuck her.

We wrote Mr. A an email to see if there was some misunderstanding.  He says he was there!  There is another restaurant with the same name about 30 miles away, but it is in another city.  We had agreed on this one.  It is possible he had the wrong day or time, or even was at the other one.  We didn’t push it.  If it was a true miscommunication, then OK we’ll give him another try.  We said that we need to exchange phone numbers so this won’t happen again (and so he and Wife can text each other).  The message was sent yesterday, and Mr. A has demonstrated that he only checks AFF every 3 or 4 days.  So it’s no surprise that we haven’t heard from him.  We’ll get his number and check him out.  If we don’t have any more surprises or red flags, we’ll meet him again.  This time though we probably won’t do dinner.  We need a venue where we can say thanks, but no thanks and leave at any time.  What do you think are some activities that would be appropriate?  Send me an email or leave a comment.

So that’s a twist I didn’t see coming.  Mr. B is out and Mr. A is back in (sort of).  Interesting.

The real interesting part starts with Mr. C.  He has definitely been more aggressive.  His emails have been very suggestive.  That scared Wife off for a bit, but not enough to completely turn her away.  Now suddenly he seems more suitable.

And there is a Mr. D.  He’s is a bit older than us, and we just got his number.  Wife will text with him and we plan to meet him.  However we are still very busy.  Any meetings will have to wait at least two weeks.

Plus there are several others we are just starting to get to know.  It’s starting to seem this might take longer than I thought.  We’ll see.  We’re enjoying the ride.

Our Double Date with Misters A and B - Part 1

Saturday, I planned to leave work no later than one and a half hours before the meeting time with Mr. A for dinner.  As the day presses on, it becomes apparent that we won’t be done at work.  I decide that I can leave as late a 1 hour before and still get home, cleaned up and to the restaurant.  I coordinate my departure with a coworker and let Wife know.  As the clock winds down to the 1 hour mark, so does our task.  We are on track to finish a bit early and I start to feel comfortable.  Well, we hit a bit of a snag and things take a bit longer, but we finish with exactly 1 hour to go.  I plan to make my exit.  However, our lead wants to do a quick wrap up and discuss our next steps.  OK, that should take five minutes.  Except today it drags on and on.  I find myself trying to quietly escape as I hand my coworker a note with my cell number and ask him to call me to let me know if we are working on Sunday.  I dash out of the building to my car.

This normally wouldn’t be a problem.  We would just call our dinner acquaintance, and let them know we were running late.  However, Mr. A did not respond back to our last email in which we requested his phone number.  Red flag?  You bet, but not out of character for Mr. A.  Remember that he has always taken a bit of time to read his email.  So there is a possibility that he didn't get it.

So here I am, rushing to get home and to get ready for our dinner date, when we have some doubt that Mr. A will even show up.  I have Wife pick out an outfit and lay it out for me.  I run in, head straight to the bedroom, strip down, clean up, and get dressed.  We’re out the door only a couple minutes late.  We will probably make it there on time.

On the way we review a printout of Mr. A’s AFF profile.  I would have liked to have time to review our email exchanges, but of course there was no time for that.  We reviewed the questions we had previously written to ask at this meeting and added a few more.  We are all set to pull into the parking lot right on time.  Then we had one more set back.

We had never been to this restaurant before, but knew where it was.  Or so we thought.  We pulled into the parking lot of the shopping center, and the restaurant wasn’t there.  We quickly figured out where it was and got there with only a short delay.  We were less than five minutes late.

We walk in and look around.  No single men looking anxious.  We ask for a table for three.  The place is small and not crowded at all.  They bring out warm towels and we order drinks.  I have a beer and Wife orders the 4 shot sampler of flavored sake.  We’re glad that we made it (close enough to) on time and didn’t make him wait.

We talk about our upcoming meeting.  The nervousness of the last two first meetings is not there.  We’re getting to be veterans at this.  I guess once you meet a young black man (oh, didn’t I tell you Mr. Z was black?) in public where everyone knows something sexual is going on between him and Wife, you know you can handle any of these meetings.

So now we wait.

Intro to Mr. A

Let me tell you a little about Mr. A.  We met him on AFF.  He saw our ad and wrote to us about a month ago, and we have been exchanging emails and pictures since.  He is Wife’s favorite of all the men we have met.  He is a couple years older than us and seems like a nice guy.  We have had a bit of difficulty communicating with him.  He seems to prefer to use AFF rather than the email address he gave us, and he only checks his AFF account every few days.  (We also have had some trouble with AFF losing or censoring mail, but that is for another post.)  Otherwise he seems very eager to meet us.

He is divorced and lives fairly close, close enough for Wife to stop in for a quicky when she wants. :-)  He’s not very tall, but he is taller than Wife, handsome (not like me of course) and he says he has an athletic build.  Interestingly, he is the only man not include a photo of his cock, and now that I realize this, I’m wondering how big (or small) it is.  I don’t know if Wife has noticed this yet nor what she thinks about it.

We are meeting him for dinner on Saturday.  We suggested the date and time and he suggested the place.  He chose a nice Japanese place that is known for its sushi, but we’ve never been there.  We like sushi but are a bit tame.  We tend to stick with the California roll with the occasional spicy shrimp or blue crab roll and even more rarely a Hawaiian roll.  Hopefully he has eaten here often and his superior knowledge will give him some confidence that will carry over into seducing my wife.

We don’t plan on anything happening at this first meeting.  It’s just a chance to get to know each other.  We will have dinner and a drink or two to see how we hit it off.

Besides, we have to meet Mr. B for drinks just 3 hours after we meet Mr. A.  :-)

Ketchup – April 23, 2009

It’s been awhile since I posted. Five days. I think that is my longest dry spell yet. And even that post was a fantasy. So I haven’t shared anything about us in over a week. Must not have been anything to share. ;)

We did sign up for AM, AFF and another online site. As of today, we’ve had no luck on AM. Surprising, I thought that would bring out a, I don’t know, more sophisticated man. I think the fact that Wife did not hide that I know of her activities probably frightened off some. Wimps! :)

The unnamed site (AM and AFF are too big to fail, this one’s not, and you know my track record with endorsing sites, lol) has one interesting prospect, but he hasn’t been on since 2 days before we entered our profile. He would definitely find us if he did a search, and I think he would at least be interested. I guess we need to write to him. He lives about an hour away, but half way there are restaurants and hotels. What more do we need? :)

But we haven’t gotten around to that yet cause of all the activity on AFF. We put up a quick profile without much effort in it and got winks (and spanks), hotlisted and several emails. Then we went back and created a profile of which we can be proud (although our first one had more info than many others). This resulted in even more winks, hotlisting and emails. We are now seriously emailing with one guy, who we will probably meet, and started emailing with a couple of others.

(The AFF is a little confusing. We are standard members. I thought we would look around for a few days to see what it is like. Now I click on some things and it takes me to the order page. OK I guess I need to upgrade for that feature. That’s fine. But do I upgrade gold or silver? Nothing tells me what I can do as a standard member, as a silver member, or as a gold member (I think there are also VIP members). Usually at this point I just hit the back arrow and get back to the naughty bits. Yesterday, I finally went looking for a membership benefits or FAQ page. Couldn’t find one. So I thought, why upgrade? We’re getting more action than we can handle already. If they had just shown me a simple table listing what you can do for free, as a silver member and as a gold member, I would have already signed up for 3 months. I guess the marketing strategy is aimed at the single males.)

I guess at some point I am going to have to figure out how to tell everyone that we are not currently accepting resumes as we are in the process of interviewing candidates to fill the slut slot, but that should there be another opening we will update our profile and start looking again.

So the poll results were 3 for Craigslist, 2 for AM and 2 for AFF. After less than 2 weeks of data, we can reach some tentative conclusions. For us it looks like AFF is working out the best. I like that there is a form of feedback on the profiles. That probably means I’m going to have to figure out to which level we should upgrade. AM is not for couples and therefore probably won’t yield promising results. The unnamed site really only has the one prospect for us and we’ll see how that works out.

I haven’t said anything about Craigslist. I guess it’s been OK. It gave us Mr. X (a dud, but if he wrote to us today, we would go meet him), Mr. Y (nice guy, but the chemistry wasn’t there), and now Mr. Z.